into conflict with Andrew. Another student described playing basketball in gym class on the day of the dinner dance. Andrew was supposed to “sub” for him, but refused. When the student insisted, Andrew told him that if he ever saw him alone, he’d shoot him.
Just after Valentine’s Day, Andrew had a very brief romance with a girl in his class, which she broke off. As noted, she later told Sadoff that she did this because of the strange things that Andrew had told her. She informed police that Andrew referred to himself as “Your God, Satan.” Other times he talked about the anti-Christ and Hitler as being “cool.” She also said to police that Andrew seemed obsessed with her. She noted, for example, that she had given Andrew her class schedule, and that he began to show up to see her throughout the day. As noted before, even after they stopped seeing each other, they continued to stay on friendly terms as part of the same circle of friends. Occasionally, Andrew’s anger and disappointment would show. On a page in his yearbook, the girl wrote, “Andy, you’re sooo mean. To think I actually liked you and you can’t even sign my yearbook.”
Clearly, Andrew still hoped that his former girlfriend would get back together with him. In a letter he wrote to her a few weeks before the shooting, Andrew mentioned a boy she had dated previously and his eagerness to get back with her: “Not that I blame him, with a body like yours plus your personality—god I want you.” The girl was not interested. Andrew asked her to be his date for the dinner dance, but she refused and instead went with one of Andrew’s other friends. In his yearbook, another girl wrote of Andrew’s frustrations: “Andy, Give it up—[She] will never go back out w/u! Hey, maybe we can get together w/[male student] & smoke up or something this summer?!”
Andy also asked a second girl to the dance, who later told police investigators that she laughed at him. A student who claimed to have witnessed this exchange said that Andrew had responded by saying, “Then I’ll have to kill you.” Another girl told police that, about two weeks before the dance, Andrew had offered her $10 to beat up the girl who had laughed at him, knowing that the two girls hadn’t gotten along for awhile.
Andrew’s inability to get and keep a girlfriend tapped into his insecurity, touching him to the core. Earlier that spring, Andrew had also written a letter to a girl who was dating one of his friends. In the letter, which he signed “Satan,” Andrew asked if she was going to the dinner dance with his friend, and whether he was getting “any head” from her. At the end, Andrew wrote, “I’m so stupid I never thought to ask you, but know— can I live at your house? You know how parents are and it wouldn’t be very long. Please? but that ok I haven’t found anybody to say yes but I will. Well til next time.”